Selfish Lovers are Better in Bed, says Study

In Love & Sex by , on Monday, June 21, 2010, 5:30 AM (PDT)
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Try fighting for what you want in bed.

Pop quiz. What kind of person do you think makes the best lover? Here's a hint... it's not the one who focuses all their attention on the desires of their lover.

A new study has revealed that the selfish lover, the kind who spends the love-making sessions in bed trying to get what they themselves want, actually have the more fulfilling sex lives.

Conducted by professors and graduate students at Kwantlen Polytechnic University in Vancouver, the study looked at 60 couples, half of them under 30 and the other half over, and asked them questions about why they have sex and how much they enjoy it with their partners.

"We found that as a partner's sexual self-focus decreased, their partner's satisfaction decreased," Hayley Leveque, one of the study's researchers, told The Vancouver Sun. "You would think it would be exactly the opposite, with a partner being more attentive to the other partner's needs, but that's not what we found. It was sort of counterintuitive."

The results showed that younger couples reported having sex to satisfy personal needs, while many older couples said they had sex to show affection to their partner.

The study's researchers concluded that to be a good lover, you must have a healthy mix of selfishness and the desire to please your partner. Being enthusiastic about receiving pleasure during sex is key, as is the effort to give your partner what they need.

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