5 Things Guys Can Learn From 'The Bachelor'

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A look at Jake Pavelka as the model man.

Dare we say it: The Bachelor is actually educational this season. No no, we don't mean the anthropological lesson you can get on how not to act when trying to attract a man (you can learn that in any of the previous 13 seasons). We're referring to the encouraging display of gentleman and sincerity that is Jake Pavelka. Boys and girls, take heart: this is how dating should be.

Jake doesn't like drunk girls. Early in the season, one of the female contestants sat down with Jake for a champagne-infused one-on-one. When she slurred her words, Jake said he wished she hadn't had so much to drink. We all know that alcohol can make it easier to express the hots we're feeling for someone, but for Jake, a drunk girl does not equal a fun girl...or an honorable girl...or a marriable girl...or a -- you get the idea.

Jake sees every woman's unique beauty. And it's not just, "Whoa, you look hot." On each date and in a lot of camera confessionals, Jake uses words like "amazing," "stunning" and "incredibly beautiful"...and he uses them genuinely, as though there's only one woman in the whole house. Is it just us, or do a lot of guys leave this out? It's helpful for him to say it when he thinks you look gorgeous. After all, it's what we women want -- no, need -- to hear most.

Jake's standards are real. In last week's episode of The Bachelor, one of the women asked Jake what he looks for in a partner. Jake replied saying that he needs someone with a strong foundation of faith, and a love for her family. In life, these two core values can trump everything else -- just ask the victims of the Haiti earthquake. We're encouraged to see that Jake Pavelka likes women with a rich personality...not just a rich purse.

Jake smiles a lot. We'll admit: last season we were a little 'enh' about Jake Pavelka...but we're learning that he's like Jon Bon Jovi in the "Livin' On A Prayer" video in 1986: the more he smiles, the more addicted you grow! Psychologists have discovered that the mere act of smiling sends the happy chemical dopamine coursing through our bodies. Isn't a happy guy so much fun to be around? (And as we've seen, Jake also cries -- another point on the board.)

Jake doesn't pretend. Jake Pavelka did the unprecedented when he told The Bachelor host Chris Harrison in week 4 that he had one too many roses to give away at the rose ceremony. Translated: he sent two women packing that night, instead of just one, because he knew deep-down that he was interested in neither. To muck up the words of an old song: if you don't love someone, set them free. So simple, and so humane.

Love The Bachelor? Then get ready for ABC's spinoff, The Bachelor Pad, where the show's most loved and loathed contestants will show their faces again...such a beautiful trainwreck.